Attachment goes both ways. Why has this been a lesson so long in coming?
It took me a big ole' smack down from the universe to see that I am a (big) part of the connection/attachment challenges in our family. And while the smack down still stings (did I mention it was/is a big smack down?) I'm so thrilled that I have a renewed commitment and energy to continuing to build my relationship with my son and learning to be a better mama. And I do see him reacting positively to changes I'm working hard to make. Parenting kids from hard places is harder than I'd ever imagined. To be continued... for the rest of my life.
In other news, Sam just turned 3! And, as everyone promised, 3 is looking to be harder than 2. He's very, um, strong willed. And persistent. And strong willed. He's also silly, funny and still a great sleeper, especially at night. He knows is colors, numbers, letters and he knows left from right. He's super duper smart. He loves to read and has most of his books memorized. He loves cars, trucks, transporters, taxi cabs and you name the construction vehicle - or any vehicle for that matter. Unfortunately, along with such intellectual excellence, does not come potty training. Not. Even. Close. Ugh. Again, to be continued...
It took me a big ole' smack down from the universe to see that I am a (big) part of the connection/attachment challenges in our family. And while the smack down still stings (did I mention it was/is a big smack down?) I'm so thrilled that I have a renewed commitment and energy to continuing to build my relationship with my son and learning to be a better mama. And I do see him reacting positively to changes I'm working hard to make. Parenting kids from hard places is harder than I'd ever imagined. To be continued... for the rest of my life.
In other news, Sam just turned 3! And, as everyone promised, 3 is looking to be harder than 2. He's very, um, strong willed. And persistent. And strong willed. He's also silly, funny and still a great sleeper, especially at night. He knows is colors, numbers, letters and he knows left from right. He's super duper smart. He loves to read and has most of his books memorized. He loves cars, trucks, transporters, taxi cabs and you name the construction vehicle - or any vehicle for that matter. Unfortunately, along with such intellectual excellence, does not come potty training. Not. Even. Close. Ugh. Again, to be continued...
3 comments:
soooo happy to see an update! Sounds like things are really just moving along! He is beautiful! congrats on turning 3!
Best, Becca
PS- my oldest was "working" on being pottied trained during his 3's- pooping on the potty was tough- so when he headed off to preschool a month after turning 4 I sent him to school with fingers crossed and extra clothes.. He's now almost 12 and in middle school- it goes by so fast- I used to hate hearing people say that- it is SO TRUE! hang in there!
Yep, sounds about right. Attachment is definitely more on me at this point than our 3-year-old. Great pictures!
God and I had that attachment talk too. It helps for sure. One thing I am beginning to see is that this is for the long term! Luke was 4ish in September and well I tell very, very few people but he is not potty trained. Not at all. The psychologist tell us it is a control thing..... help me! No matter what I do it makes it worse. She told me that when we are okay with it he will let go. HOW CAN I BE OKAY WITH THIS???? This adoption was and is the hardest and greatest thing we have ever done!!!! But we just move forward! You are such a good mamma!!!! Lots of love and prayers to your family.
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